I’m 21 years old and I’ve already slept with 40 women. I don’t know if this is normal or if it is because I’ve spent the past three years at Uni where I’ve been involved in many casual relationships.
I feel embarrassed about this and I want to meet the right person but every relationship I’ve been in has been ruined by the lack of buzz I get from the having sex with new people.
I’ve engaged in sex with people I wasn’t necessarily attracted to, people I know weren’t right for me and I’ve had one STD scare before but have since been cleared.I feel sordid, ashamed and worried about the next person I meet. It appears to be a vicious circle because I seem to have meaningless sex with people because I get the feeling they wouldn’t want me as a boyfriend or I’m worried about getting bored and my libido getting the better of me.
I hope that once I graduate later this year that it will be easier to get a grip on this, not being surrounded by potential opportunities might be one step towards having healthy relationships. I’m worried I’m on my own and I don’t want to be scaring women off with my past prowess because it simply isn’t me.
Any advice would be great. Thank you.