Recovery Experience

You will find here the questions and answers (experience of the fellowship of SLAA) which you may find useful in your recovery.

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Stories and experience submitted to the site

sponsorship

Hi, I’m in Oxford and we do not have SLAA, i have just found this fellowship and feel i am at the back end of withdrawal, i desperately need, and am very keen to start the solution through step work. I have been in another fellowship for another addiction (NA) for 10 years next month, […]

Anorexia Literature

Hi, I’m new to posting on the forum and I’m interested to know if anyone has found much literature on the specific subject of anorexia outside of the booklets available on SLAA? I find reading really helps understanding and would love to find more personal stories similar to the ones at the back of the […]

Obsessive Thoughts

I have had deep obsessional thoughts about this man in my therapy group, I think about him constantly and how we might be together even though I have only spoken to him a few times, it builds up so much in my head and it may sound stupid but when I looked on the internet […]

Romantic obsession

I would appreciate some feedback please. I’ve only been to 1 meeting of slaa. I am a alcoholic/addict in recovery. Over the years I have really struggled with romantic obsessions, dependency and also sexual addiction that has been so painful that I relapsed into drinking and using again. It’s been about a year and a […]

New to this

Hi,I’d like to go to one of the meetings around London, just realised/admitted im an addict and really need to get off my chest and find help. Do i just turn up to either of the Marlylebone rd meetings? Kelvin

Staying current

no spony, made at least 6 calls t other slaa members trying to get a spony to take me through questions, praying for patience, still abstenant, feel like i’m grieving the person who i became, i was despairingly desperate, in fact suicidal, as i gave myself willingly to a unwell man who treated worse in […]

Starting over, just for today

after another slip, of contacting qualifier,no motivation then other to ask him to buy my dog food, i yet again “trip” into the same cycle, of mayb it would be ok to meet him,i want a roast dinner and a cuddle, he wants me to use crack and suck his shrivelled piece, at the same […]

New Life

I’ve just separated from my wife after 12 wonderful years.  I ended up in rehab in central London last year to deal with my Bipolar and with that comes several other issues.  I found myself flirting with all the attractive women there and ended up having an affair with my Therapist.  My wife found out […]

I’m new to SLAA but already panicking about Step 9 – help!

Hi, After years of not knowing what’s wrong with me I’ve finally found a counsellor that has identified that I’m not just needy, I actually have love addiction. I’m due to stay at a therapy centre soon for two weeks and a big part of continuing what I’m doing there is attending meetings when I […]

Nervous at attending meeting

Hi, I joined the site a year ago but didn’t act on it.  I would like to join the meeting in Toddington but am really nervous about new ventures and walking into an already established meeting alone.  Is there anyone that goes to the meeting or anyone that can advise me?  Thanks for reading.

working the steps

hi there I’m currently starting to go through my steps again with a new sponsor for my addictions to food,drink and drugs.(im six years sober) I would find it really nice and simple if it was possible to work out my boundaries around my now prevelant slaa problems so that i could continue working with one […]

working the steps

hi there I’m currently starting to go through my steps again with a new sponsor for my addictions to food,drink and drugs.(im six years sober) I would find it really nice and simple if it was possible to work out my boundaries around my now prevelant slaa problems so that i could continue working with one […]

new member

Hi, I’m new to the site and am in a bit of a mess. I’ve been in a relationship with a Love addict for 12 years. His issues are clearly from his relationship with his parents as a child. His sister has battled with eating disorders for years, if only that was his addiction I […]

SLAA, CODA or both?

Hello,I am new to the forum although I have read articles here on and off for a year. I have accepted that I am co-dependent. I’ve been in therapy for some time and made good progress but I’ve come to believe that a fellowship will aid my recovery in ways that therapy may not be […]

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Resisting Bombs

Hi Have done a lot of work on my LA – mostly in one to one therapy, having made miraculous progress by treating the underlying codependence, and detoxing from childhood abandonment. For the last four years have worked VERY hard on myself. This year, started dating a guy who like me is also in chemical […]

support?

I haven’t posted for a while. I am very confused. My husband has been home from a clinic for treatment for SLAA now for 5 months. We are still together, and he is still clean, but i am struggling with trust among many others issues. I feel alone in my own recovery, i cant talk […]

Where do I start?

I do not live in the UK so I am not able to attend any meetings, I would like to know where to start though asap…my 5 yr realationship is on the very edge of falling apart right now…..

how do I cope?

I’ve been married to my husband for nearly 6 yrs. Even in the first year, I stumbled across trouble when I found him texting with another girl.   I threw him out, he said it meant nothing, and that it was just text sex. I let him back.I caught him leaving the house for work […]

New to this kind of thing

Hey there…So.. umm.. yeah.. where to start.. well.. I’m 21 and I live in London.. I just recently realised I have a sexual addition. I am thinking about going to a meeting though I have depression and anxiety so this would be really hard for me. I guess, what I’m looking for is someone I […]

Am I an addict? or am I over reacting

  I’m a 23 year old uni student and I’m not sure if I’m an addict or just over reacting.  I have been with over 20 guys which compared to other peoples stories I know isn’t allot, but that’s only been with the last couple of years. It started really when I found out my […]

I’m pretty sure I’m a sex addict…

Ok, so in brief heres my story. I’m a 26 year old female, struggling with a combination of a high sex drive and low self esteem. I used to work as a stripper/lapdancer, and used to adore the gratification I got from men wanting me. I was only 21 when I started stripping, and was […]

Scared to have a relationship

Have been effectively single for two years after being a love addict involved with a sex addict for three years. Have been approached by someone I have just been talking to as a friend for a while. He has told me of feelings he has for me that I had no idea about, but am petrified of entering […]

Nothing left

Hi, I’m new here and I really need help. From an early age I had issues with depression and anitixty. By my teens I had eating disorders, tried to kill myself a few times and barely had any realtionships with people – in any sense of the term. I first starting dating in my late […]

Nothing left

  Hi, I’m new here and I really need help. From an early age I had issues with depression and anitixty. By my teens I had eating disorders, tried to kill myself a few times and barely had any realtionships with people – in any sense of the term. I first starting dating in my […]

partner is a sex addict , dont know how much more I can take.

Ive been in a relationship with with a sex addict for 4yrs. I don’t understand it although i do try, part of me see’s it as something that’s beyond his control and the other resents him sometimes even hates him for what he puts me through. His “thing” is sexual fantasy , obsessive masturbation and […]

Unusure about attending a meeting for the first time

I can no longer pretend my behaviours are “normal” and the impact of my actions are becoming more apparent day by day. I am losing friends, hurting people I care about, have a horrendous reputation, put myself in dangerous situations…you get the picture. But I am worried that I am not as “addicted” as others and that because I […]

mistress of a sex addict

Help. I have been in a relationship for 8 years with a married man. I have known he has had some other flings but got through the pain etc not really understanding what was going on, last year he began to open up to me about being a sex addict and we both started to […]

My Toplines

Top-lines. This is my topic of self reflection for the weekend.This follows my realising that my addiction is just as severe, perhaps more so on the anorexic, acting in side as the addicted acting out side. I’m going to try to think up some top-lines for me . HELP 1. Brush teeth three times a […]