hi kevin, i am in a similar position, but where i live we have 2 saa meetings that i go to instead, and i have a slaa how sponsor. i find it really difficult because i need the id of slaa, but the saa meetings help. maybe you could see if you have got any saa meetings in your area instead?

Hi Flo12and12,
My name is Kevin and I am a sex addict and a social and emotional anorexic
I find myself in the same position.  I am on day 120 of abstaining from my three most destructive "bottom line" S behaviours, but I don't have (and have never had) a sponsor, and is it painful. I am fearful for today.
There are no SLAA meetings where I live, but whenever I visit London, I try an cram as many meetings in as I possibly can.  My own pain has reached a point where I know I need a sponsor because I don't know any way out of the pain except acting out or drinking or overeating.  So far I did not have the courage to go up to anyone and ask them to sponsor me.  My anorexia would always cut in and I would tell myself I was a hopeless case and nobody would be interested.
Yesterday I finally got desperate enough to exchange phone numbers with someone who had stood up at the end of the meeting as a potential sponsor.  I called him last night and asked him to sponsor me through the first step at least.  He said no.  One of the key points of HOW is to attend 3 meetings per week, and if I could not do that then it would be unfair to either of us to go ahead with it.
I feel rejected. In some ways this vindicates my anorexia.  I was not worth it in the first place.  I don't know whether I shall go to the meeting today.
For myself I don't see an end to the pain.  I go to 1 AA meeting per week.  The drinking was just another addiction.  I have 4 others.  What I really have to deal with is my issues of self-esteem, worthlessness, and childhood trauma. How the hell can I do that without a sponsor?
(Edited - too much identifiable information.)
Kevin