Hi,It sounds to me like you have an obscession regarding sex. This sounds like sex addiction. Those of us who are sex addicts, can never seem to get enough sex, even if we just keep it with one partner. A loving relationship involves intimacy with another person. If you are having sex, but not being intimate with her then maybe you are a sex addict. Its important that she is happy with the frequency of sex,  if she is being woken up all the time perhaps she will become resentful. As a sex addict myself, I feel I cannot just "help myself" whenever I want it, I have to wait until my wife "consents" or actively requests it. Its hard, I would like it every day, but I have to be patient, and settle for much less. The result of this, is a healthier relationship where I know my wife doesnt hold resentments or feels used. Try one of the SLAA meetings, it may be able to offer some support. Best wishes. Prof.