My ex just broke up with me after 24 years. I sometimes felt lonely and co-dependent in the relationship and know that I was not taking responsibility for my own happiness.  I mistakenly believed if we could move or he could change then we would live happily ever after and the years rolled by.  He sometimes seemed distant and often seemed critical of me. Our shared children, families and mutual friends kept us together. And I love him. Now children have left home he has gone.  I have had no contact apart from a few practical emails re money.  I have been to meetings, read, got loads of support and companionship, the withdrawal has been painful but I am starting to love myself a bit more.  Now he has offered to talk, but I emailed no too late.  Now I feel bad. I have got the house (until it has to be sold) and he is apparently sleeping on someone's floor. Children say he has lost weight and is depressed.  I feel guilty. People have said you must offer to talk with a mediator - you owe it to each other and the children.  I want to do what is grown up and right.  But as soon as I imagine seeing him I feel like a crying child.  I feel scared that if we patched it up I will just slip back into being a love addict.  I feel scared that he may have moved on completely and doesn't want to patch it up.  Don't know what to do, apart from continuing going to SLAA meetings.  But any other online help welcome please...