I can identify entirely with your situation. i got involved with somebody I used to know thru friends re last year. he was so charming, teasing and flirtatious that i was drawn into his web almost immediately. both our spouses had been seriously ill so much empathy blablabla. he was so unhappy after breaking up with another woman he had been having a six-yr affair with, his marriage was almost sexless he said. real sob story and I fell for it. my rival became his ex. his wife wasn't even in the picture. loved my husband but was in need of romance and excitement....i had never had any other partner in my life apart from my husband. that is the truth. months of passionate writing ensued, him telling me he wasn't right for me, confessing he was a philanderer and had cheated on his wife throughout their marriage...he had had lots of brief encounters, no emotional involvement. but i was hooked to a cheat and a liar. ..even told him so and the insults and accusations would fly as we both had tempers...but then I would crawl back for more. We finally met up and spent one night together which he said  was great but was a huge  let down for me. as cool as a cucumber and almost no emotion came from him.  when i returned to my country our emails became even more passionate but the guilt i felt freaked me out and we would have huge arguments. another chance to get together during another trip but i freaked and couldn't go through with it. in the meantime his wife had discovered his previous affair, had thrown him out and then taken him back. but he still hadnt wanted to give me up. guilt, our consciences, fear, whatever, stopped us from seeing each other in June. since then its been on off but I realise i only ever got his attention if i offered sex. talking about emotions was a no go area. would say 'it's not that I don't have feelings' and stuff like that but nothing more. wife has decided she wants to get adventurous and swinging seems to be on the cards and I've decided that I can't go there. and for ten days it's been really hard. wanted to stay friends and keep writing because I've tried so hard to stop time and time again but I'm addicted.  But yesteday's emails left me very bitter and suspicious. Told him I had joined LAA(America) and he was offended I felt i had to recover. I sent a definition of what love, sex and romance addiction is hoping he'd see some of his own traits too but I really don't think he cares. he was the one to bring up the expression 'no contact' so I feel he must know more than he is letting on... or am I just being paranoid about this too? I'm disgusted with myself, want to  give him up for good even tho' i told him I'd wait for him forever, feel sorry for his poor wife. and my poor husband. have cblocked him as acontact on msn. removed that email account from my mobile, got my friend to open my inbox this morning and delete if there was anything, change the password and then close down accountI've had enough. he's a manipulative narcissist and sex addict. I was addicted to th cybersex but have kicked that already. definitely a one-off for me because he kept pushing boudaries. now I must get rid of my addiction to his weird kind of 'love'