I have spent 4 years off and on with my partner due to his behaviours.  He attended SLAA 2 years ago and had help for a sponsor for a month.  Unfortunately, although he is again trying to abstain from acting out, he will not attend the meetings as he feels he has enough knowledge to do it by himself.  I do not agree, but want to be wishful and supportive.  I need some guidance on how to handle this, so far whatever rules I've instigated, or forgiveness and trying to trust him, it hasn't worked.  Firstly, is there a group in South Wales at all (I have a close friend who is also going through the same problem for 7 years) and secondly if not how can I can help to heal myself and help my partner?  Thank you in anticipation Angela