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Porn addiction - now a fresh start
6 February 2009 - 3:38pm — mark24
Hi all, today I have decided that enough is enough. I have had this porn addiction for too long now and it needs to stop. I am in a long term relationship, and every time I watch porn is upsets my girlfriend very much, which makes me feel terrible. I think my addiction started when I first saw some porn on an old cassette at the age of 9. Anyone else out there that is going through the same problem? I could really do with all the help I could get.
Mark,I can tell a similar
Mark,I can tell a similar story. Had access to explicit material at a young age and it coloured by view of women and sex for a lifetime. There are some great resources on this site. Find a way to talk to someone honestly about your problem. I'm guessing its always been your secret. You could start by going to a 12 step meeting, you could even sit your girlfriend down and tell her you've realised you are addicted and that you want to get help. If you have a computer in the house I would advise ensuring you have no access to it. I'm assuming it probably forms part of your acting out... Get your girlfriend to create her own private account with a password you don't know and delete your own. Better still, get rid of the computer for a while. I always felt like the Internet was my downfall. Addiction is a faulty form of logic that promises you relief from the pain you are feeling when actually it is the addiction which is causing that pain. Eating away at your self-esteem. Lies are horrible things to tell constantly. I did it for long enough myself. If you could see how much happier and more confident you could be in recovery you would be truely amazed. Honestly, amazed.
I have a long history of
I have a long history of porn addiction, obsession and indulgence. First things first.
Giving up porn seems like a long hard struggle, which is why we use the phrase 'just for today' and 'one day at a time' so much.
It's easy to say as you did 'today I decided enough was enough' and try to quit forever in just one day. The fact of the matter is that you need to begin each new day as if it were your first.
Begin by admitting that your porn addiction is more powerful than you are.
Realize that there is a force greater than you and greater than your addiction when you talk to other people about your problem and involve a great spirit.
Put your trust entirely in the hands of a greater person's will and trust that they will remove your addiction for you.
Recognize that selfishness is at the heart of your addiction and write a list of the people who you hurt through your addiction aside from yourself...
proceed with care and caution.
having similar problems to
having similar problems to you, disturbed by a lot of stuff i saw as a young kid shown to me by my brother, so lots of issues and now having trouble stopping, it's really affecting me. Can't offer much in the way of advice - but you're not alone and i hope you find a way past this