Nobody can answer that one for you. It makes no difference whether you are in SLAA or not. It all depends on you, your partner, your recovery, if you have any, and whether telling them will be used as a way to hurt them, or will damage them. Sometimes confession can be a way to unfairly unload problems onto somebody else. Its often easier to avoid responsibility for the harms we do to others by burdening them with the guilt that should be ours, not theirs. Once I can be honest with myself, then I can be honest with others. In that order.
Nobody can answer that one
Nobody can answer that one for you. It makes no difference whether you are in SLAA or not. It all depends on you, your partner, your recovery, if you have any, and whether telling them will be used as a way to hurt them, or will damage them. Sometimes confession can be a way to unfairly unload problems onto somebody else. Its often easier to avoid responsibility for the harms we do to others by burdening them with the guilt that should be ours, not theirs. Once I can be honest with myself, then I can be honest with others. In that order.