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Newbie needs help
Hi everyone!
This is my first time posting so I am a little apprehensive going public!It has taken me a considerable time (years) to finally accept that I have addictions which are leading to unsatisfactory relationships. I am addicted to love and largely pointed the finger at partners in the past for problems.
If anyone could advise me where to begin in my recovery I would be really appreciative because dispite I am unsure where to start! I have always been into self development stuff and have put a lot of time and effort into trying to sort myself (and others!) out. I havent been to any meetings and as with any addiction the thought of it terrifies me! Is there any self help stuff I can do to ease me into it so that I dont feel so insecure or does it have to be baptism by fire!
I am in a relationship with a sex addict who is in denial and dont hold out much hope of being able to continue it. I have split with my partner, who I dont live with, a number of times only to return to a situation worse than the one I left. I feel like I am going insane with it all. I am driving my friends and family insane in attempts to work round my partners issues and not for the first time am now focusing on myself.
So if anyone can help that would be fantastic!
Welcome on Forum I Am like
Welcome on Forum
I Am like you not person addicted but got someone really close to me who got a problem . The best for you will be to see psychologist and talk about what you feel and then look on a forum . Would be great to organise a meeting somwhere for families of addicted to talk and help eachother and get through it together . You need to start doing things for yourself and you can only show this person where help is but unfortunately you can't decide for this person .
Suggestions for "Newbie needs help"
How about starting with steps one to three (see Steps and Traditions) and the Serenity Prayer? It may help to speak them out, as far as you can go, each morning and evening. Reading up on the subject increased my awareness and understanding of my behaviour and helped me face my problems. I had not realised how deeply and generally infected my ways of relating were, but it was a relief to see more clearly why they weren't working! Beware of letting new insights entice you back down the isolated path of "I can fix myself". Please get to meetings as soon as you can. Perhaps a friend with a similar problem would go with you?
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Hi,
Glad youve found this site, and thanks for your honesty. Why not download a copy of the HOW starter Kit and read it before attending several SLAA meetings. That should help to get you off to a good start.
Best wishes.